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- Look, there was an old maiden, - young mummies with children in carriages discuss passing by girl of years 28. - And that it she in marriage does not leave?
- She wants to die in girls!

Meanwhile this "the old maiden" the idea on marriage does not worry at all. She concerns to that modern type of single women which about home life in its traditional understanding and to hear do not want. As against the majority ambassadress a fair sex for which the family is necessarily: a stamp in the passport; the husband - careful father (care is shown basically in "manufacture" of children) and which agree that in marriage by him is necessary to carry out a role of a vacuum cleaner, dish-washing and washing machines. "There's nothing to be done, - such women speak, is a home life, and my duty - be the considerable wife".

However, the God with them. As in this case we shall lead speech about female minority - about those "old maidens". You see the women overestimating the sights on family, with each year becomes more and more and more. Sociologists and psychologists differently name this new type of the Russian women. One speak, that it is result of intrigues American feminist, others that with becoming in Russia economic attitudes and contrary to a stereotype "the woman - the wife and mother", in our state the woman, for which above all work, career has appeared ordinary businesswoman, i.e. the woman, for which above all is work, career. Some even are inclined to assert, as if these women have reconciled to the sad fact, that men on all do not suffice (remember - "... On 10 little girls according to 9 guys"?), especially considerable. And they direct all energy not on creation of a home, and on construction of the career. That is realize itself in work.

So to sound the alarm or perceive this process as natural? On the one hand, birth rate, family falls as the social institute collapses. With another to bring down all on birth rate does not cost - the ground, in opinion of some scientists, it is overpopulated and to concern to this situation the mankind is necessary quietly, simply enters on the next coil of the development. But how named modern women, they are quite pleased with life, more often. Judge by yourself.

Olga, 30 years, journalist: "I do not understand, why all so the marital status of the woman worries? How many time this care on itself tested. I get, for example, in the new company, conversation comes about family, and I speak: "Is single". At me at once start to look with sympathy and console: "Well, do not experience, you still necessarily will meet the man!" Yes I both do not suffer at all and I am not going to meet anybody. The man at me is, and the husband is not necessary for me. If to speak about family and children I think what to give birth it is possible and without a stamp in the passport and to bring up the child not worse, than in a marriage. No, I, certainly, not against family. Simply concepts "independence" and "marriage" for me are not compatible. Everything else me arranges".

By the way, the civil marriage about which as I understand, Olga speaks, becomes more and more popular in Russia. And the initiator of such relations is the woman. Why? Very simply: she at any moment can wave to the partner the handle with words "Lassie, you have got me!"

And some more opinion of single women into which vital plans creation of family not enters.

Svetlana, 23 years, the manager on sales in cosmetic firm: "Is not present, I not that that against men. To me are equally interesting both clever men, and clever women. In this respect I not militant feminist. As to my sights on family they have developed already for a long time. Looking on family relations of the parents, I have understood: this "punishment" not for me. Therefore in relations with my young man the given theme - taboo".

Irina, 28 years, the teacher of university: "To create family whether or not, to give birth to children or does not cost is deeply the private affair of each person. And to solve these problems loving people should. The family is not acceptable to me because I am very absorbed by the work, I'll emphasize - favorite work. It delivers to me pleasure and is my wet nurse. If to create family it will be necessary in damage or work - that I do not want, - or to my children and the husband. And I would not want, that children grew without my participation. So I do not want anything to change. Now. And there it will be visible".

For the sake of justice it is necessary to note, that in an orthodox Russian province, as against large cities, such single women, as Irina, Olga or Svetlana, units. And for the majority of girls marriage is original light at the end of the tunnel. As approve Russian statistics, marriages consist in a province in enough early age - on the average from 17 till 20 years. However, early marriages break up much more often, approximately in 2-4 years of joint life.

So better: to leave in marriage "very early" and, having taken pleasure in charm of family relations to divorce or remain independent, but the old maiden?

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